This week’s Torah portion’s spiritual focus is on “THE UNLOVING SPIRIT!” The author Gary Chapman has a famous book out entitled: The (5) Five Love Languages. As I was preparing this week’s Adult Torah Study the thought came to me; What is Yah’s Love Language!?! The answer to this question is found in the weekly reading of this week’s parasha.

The Torah portion for this week is “Devarim (Words …).”

We will begin this week’s ATS by reviewing what the (5)Emotional Love Languages are; and how they interrelate to how we should express them toward Yah. With that said; what are the (5) Emotional Love Languages!?! The following are some important excerpts from the book that I believe will bless you as you apply them towards Yah! Please note: these are not in chronological order as to how you should minister to Yah & Yahushua/Jesus. Allow the Holy Spirit to lead you in the order that Yah desires.

My conclusion after many years of marriage counseling is that there are five emotional love languages — five ways that people speak and understand emotional love.

1.[Thought provoking]Words of Affirmation

One way to express love emotionally is to use words that build up. Solomon, author of ancient Hebrew Wisdom Literature, wrote,

"The tongue has the power of life and death" (Proverbs 18:21, NIV).

Many couples have never learned the tremendous power of verbally affirming each other.

Psychologist William James said that possibly the deepest human need is the need to feel appreciated. Words of affirmation will meet that need in many individuals.

2.Quality [Continually Guarded] Time

By "quality time," I mean giving someone your undivided attention. I don't mean sitting on the couch watching television together. When you spend time that way, Netflix or HBO has your attention — not your spouse. What I mean is sitting on the couch with the TV off, looking at each other and talking, devices put away, giving each other your undivided attention. It means taking a walk, just the two of you, or going out to eat and looking at each other and talking. If your mate's primary love language is quality time, he/she simply wants you, being with her, spending time.

3.Receiving [Thoughtful] Gifts

Almost everything ever written on the subject of love indicates that at the heart of love is the spirit of giving. All five love languages challenge us to give to our spouse, but for some, receiving gifts, visible symbols of love, speaks the loudest.

A gift is something you can hold in your hand and say, "Look, he was thinking of me," or, "She remembered me." You must be thinking of someone to give him or her a gift. The gift itself is a symbol of that thought. It doesn't matter whether it costs money. What is important is that you thought of him or her. And it is not the thought implanted only in the mind that counts but the thought expressed in actually securing the gift and giving it as the expression of love.

4. Acts of Service [which meets the true need of spouse]

Michelle's primary love language was what I call class=”quote?>"acts of service." By acts of service, I mean doing things you know your spouse would like you to do. You seek to please her by serving her, to express your love for her by doing things for her.

Consider actions such as cooking a meal, setting a table, emptying the dishwasher, vacuuming, changing the baby's diaper, picking up a prescription, keeping the car in operating condition — they are all acts of service. They require thought, planning, time, effort and energy. If done with a positive spirit, they are indeed expressions of love.

5.Physical Touch [As the Spirit Leads you], 

We have long known that physical touch is a way of communicating emotional love. Numerous research projects in the area of child development have made that conclusion: Babies who are held, stroked and kissed develop a healthier emotional life than those who are left for long periods of time without physical contact.

Physical touch is also a powerful vehicle for communicating marital love. Holding hands, kissing, embracing and sexual intercourse are all ways of communicating emotional love to one's spouse. For some individuals, physical touch is their primary love language. Without it, they feel unloved. With it, their emotional tank is filled, and they feel secure in the love of their spouse.

Implicit love touches require little time but much thought, especially if physical touch is not your primary love language and if you did not grow up in a "touching family." Sitting close to each other as you watch your favorite television program requires no additional time but may communicate your love loudly. Touching your spouse as you walk through the room where he is sitting takes only a moment. Touching each other when you leave the house and again when you return may involve only a brief kiss or hug but will speak volumes to your spouse.

Once you discover that physical touch is the primary love language of your spouse, you are limited only by your imagination on ways to express love.

DEVARIM (The Words- דברים )

As stated many times the understanding of the meaning of a Hebrew word is revealed deep within the meaning of each letter of the Hebrew word being defined:

Dalet-ד

Door- Move, Hang, Entrance

Bet/Vet-ב

Tent Floorplan- Family, House, in

ר-Resh

Head of man-First, Top, Beginning

י-Yod

Arm with closed hand (Fist)- Work, Throw, Worship

Mem-ם

Water- Mighty, Chaos, Blood

The Word to Joshua explains the totality of what Yah’s desires are!